Do you need some help with being in a relationship? I enjoy helping people who are struggling to resolve their differences and make decisions about whether to stay in a significant relationship or not. All couples have difficult times, arguments, volcanic eruptions (even if not out loud) - hard times that make each of them wonder if they will actually make it together. 

Many people stay together "for the sake of the children", or because they really don't want to have to go out into dating land again; but they are horribly unhappy most of the time. People in these marriages/partnerships numb out, stay in their own orbits, have superficial relationships and deny they are unhappy. Then something happens - like cheating. Sometimes people seek help when they realize they are on the brink of cheating - and it's great that they reach out before it's too late.  Some couples do overcome the damage done by cheating, but not many.

In the past, I have done couples therapy. Now I focus on the individual, and include relationship issues in our work together. Sometimes, while seeing an individual, I’ll also see a partner who is agreeable to having some sessions. I find I do better work this way.

There are healthy elements and unhealthy dynamics in every relationship - I can help you sort out which is which - it's can be hard to tell. While there are many common aspects to relationship issues, they are all unique too. You and your significant other are each one in a billion, so when you put the two of you together, there is absolutely no other couple like you! I respect your singularity and will help you recognize what is actually very special about the two of you together, as well as what needs adjusting.

People are so unique, I think of relationships as attempting to bring two complex, amazing GALAXIES together! Most of us have unrealistic expectations of an intimate relationship, that go way back to romantic images that have absolutely nothing to do with reality. These wishes and expectations are so deep, so automatic that they are hard to put into words. Often the act of attempting to put them into words as adults brings some much needed perspective!

People in a relationship are people, regardless of their sexual orientation, preferences, places of origin, ethnicity or any other variables. It certainly is important to recognize the effects of any significant differences and the role these may play in misunderstandings or arguments.

Often things have gotten way out of balance, and each party sees things in their own way - one of the major challenges we all face is how to both voice our own perspective and hear the point of view of the other person. 

Having children is most often a major, major series of events that changes the relationship and pushes it way out of balance. Everyone knows this - some work consciously and openly to maintain their closeness - many do not.

If you want fewer arguments, more passion and intimacy, better communication and just a better feeling together, call me -                                                                                                            609 841 9159